When it comes to parenting styles, there are different types that parents typically adopt.
The authoritarian parenting style involves setting strict rules and guidelines without considering the child’s input. This approach is often associated with overparenting and can lead to the parent being excessively involved in the child’s life, leading to the label of “helicopter parents.”
Bethany Moore (12) has fears and concerns about her future style of parenting.
“My biggest fear is that one day my children will think I am too strict and unfair to them. It’s so scary to think about loving little kids so much and trying to do everything you can to love them and raise them correctly, and then it all seems to have been for nothing because they refuse you and hate you.” Moore said.
Conversely, the permissive parenting style is characterized by a lack of strict rules and limits for children. Parents following this style are often highly involved with their children but may tend to be overprotective. They strive to fulfill their children’s desires and shield them from hardship or challenges.
Devin Purdy (10) believes his innovative concept for a future parenting approach will incorporate empathy, collaboration and mutual respect between parents and children.
“My future parenting style will be laid back when I need to be serious, I will be,” Purdy said. “Values I would teach my children respect, honesty, courage and empathy.”
The democratic parenting style is characterized by a balanced and thoughtful approach to setting limits. Parents who adopt this style often work with their children to set up boundaries, considering their input and perspectives. Once these limits are set, parents consistently enforce them while also allowing their children the freedom to explore and make their own decisions.
Colten Sherman (9) has already formed a clear vision of the kind of parent he aspires to be.
“I envision my parenting style as a mix of authoritative and supportive. I want to set clear boundaries while nurturing and encouraging my children to explore their individuality,” Sherman said.
The democratic approach is characterized by firmness and warmth, as parents keep boundaries while fostering a friendly and supportive environment for their children.
An article from PEP (Parents Encouraging Parents) titled “Goldilocks and the Three Parenting Styles” by Kathy Matay discusses the democratic parenting style. This approach guides children toward independence by encouraging problem-solving and allowing them to make mistakes, which serve as valuable teachable moments. Democratic parents take a step back, allowing their children to explore, meet limits, and experience the consequences of their actions.
It is worth noting that while democratic parenting encourages independence and decision-making in children, excessive involvement or “helicopter parenting” can have adverse effects.
Overly controlling behavior may impede a child’s development and strain the parent-child relationship. Therefore, parents need to strike a balance, allowing their children to make mistakes and learn from them while providing guidance and support.
A 2018 study from the Cleveland Clinic examined the impact of helicopter parenting on children’s development. The researchers followed 422 children over eight years, assessing them at ages two, five, and 10. The findings showed that over-controlling parenting at age two was linked to poorer emotional and behavioral regulation by age five. Furthermore, children who proved better emotional regulation at age five were less likely to experience emotional or social problems by age 10 and tended to perform better academically.
Ultimately, the most effective approach to parenting may vary depending on the unique dynamics of each household and the specific situations that arise. Flexibility and adaptability are key components of successful parenting, and finding the right balance between setting limits and granting autonomy is a continual process.
